Exorcise that Ghost!
I like to take a walk around my neighborhood each morning. It’s become part of my ritual: I get some fresh air, a little exercise, listen to a podcast. It’s a great way to start the morning.
We have an extensive system of walking and biking trails that weave around the golf course, behind beautiful houses, and some small ponds. You could easily spend an entire day making your way across the teeming metropolis of Urbandale, Iowa!
Fortunately, we’re not living in a post-apocalyptic wasteland (at least, I’m not). I cross paths with a number of people each day. Some of them are “regulars,” and we know each other just by sight and the “Good morning. Beautiful day!” greeting. Some are walking their dog, and, as a dog lover, I get a chance to pet and say “What a good boi!” I’ve even had a small conversation or two with a walker that I’ve never seen since!
This morning, I crossed paths with a face that was familiar; however, it was out of context, and I couldn’t place him. We made eye contact and that friendly nod that can be interpreted many ways. I kept walking, but something inside was nagging me: “why is he so familiar?”
I stopped, took a few steps back, and made eye contact again. Offering to shake hands, I said “..um, where do I know you?”
He smiled, shook my hand, and said “BillyJoe JimBob, your optometrist?”
“YES!” We talked for a few moments. I mentioned that I’m way behind on my check-ups. He laughed and said he was semi-retired and only working a few days. Congratulations - I’ll still try to make that (overdue) appointment.
As we both felt the conversation was winding down, he thanked me for stopping, reminding him of my name, and taking the moment. “Thanks,” he said. Stay awesome and enjoy this beautiful day.
It’s important to feel seen. To be recognized for being Someone rather than a school of someones. It’s also important to do the seeing.
Trust me, I know it can be awkward or uncomfortable. I’m slightly embarrassed when I can’t remember a person’s name. I’ve even been accused of “ghosting” people. I felt awful about that. Trust me, you’re not the only one feeling awkward. I’m so glad I stopped and had a friendly chat, a small chance to connect, with someone I recognized. That brief feeling of awkwardness was quickly replaced by a shot of joy in that moment.
Next chance you get, take time to recognize that familiar face that’s out of context. Make a connection and exorcise that ghost!